Standing on your head isn’t an easy thing to do.
In fact, it wasn’t until this week that I thought I actually could do it. I was doing handstands against the wall after work one day in an effort to ease some of my stress, when my friend decided she wanted to join me. Pretty soon after, she decided to show me a trick of her own. She got down on her hands and knees, placed her elbows on the floor, cradled her head in her hands, and began to creep her feet forward, slowly lifting them off the ground and inverting herself, pointing her toes high into the air.
It looked impossible, but she encouraged me to do it. And I followed suit.
Slowly, I tried to mimic her form, creeping my toes forward and slowly lifting my body off the ground. With her encouragement, a little bit of spotting, and some core strength, I managed to sit just as she had minutes before, standing on my head, looking at the world upside-down–even though I thought I couldn’t do it in the first place.
In fact, I’ve had a bit of a “can’t-do” attitude the past few days. Perhaps it’s stemming from fear of failure or fear of “not being enough,” or perhaps I’m just in the midst of a hormonal “man period.” Regardless, the “can’t-do” attitude isn’t really getting me anywhere; in fact, it’s probably only making things worse.
But how does one get out of the “can’t-do” attitude? How does one go from feeling a sense of defeat and low self-esteem to a sense of triumph and high self-efficacy?
Well, I’m not quite sure how to answer that question fully, but maybe sometimes, one way to help us get out of the “can’t-do” attitude is to admit that we need a bit of a reboot. We need to tell ourselves to invert our attitude, look at the world from a new perspective, and simply believe that, if we try to stand on our heads, we will, and if we can’t right away, to get a spotter, lean on a friend, and then work on achieving it independently, without the supports in place.
Here’s to working on achieving a new can-do perspective. And to doing it independently. Cheers.